I have a love-hate relationship wth pathetic fallacy, both in fiction and in real life. (Hmmmm . . . . I am assuming I’m not the only person who anthropomorphises literary terms?) Sometimes the technique works well - I love the building storm mirroring increasing tension in Helen Dunmore’s Talking to the Dead, and I have written a novel about a woman discovering what really matters in her life, which I’ve set against the backdrop of a category five hurricane (write what you know, write what you know . . .). Sometimes, however, it’s easy to feel that the weather is just too on the nose.
Last week I said goodbye to two members of our Breakfast Club. On Saturday, in brilliant sunshine, Dennis was laid to rest. The Covid rules were relaxed with hours to spare, so his service could be held in a church with family and friends, then we were able to gather at his graveside for the committal service, then in a lakeside garden to break bread and share favourite memories. Six months after his death, this funeral was truly a celebration of a life well lived; the warm summer day was perfect. There was a single Monarch butterfly flitting amongst us. In a novel, it would have been too much.
On Wednesday, in a cold, heavy rain, Jim was sent off with a full Catholic Mass. His illness was sudden, unexpected; he leaves behind his wife, who is living with Dementia. I pretended the rain was disguising my tears.
And then, on Friday evening, Rose, another of our friends who was living with Dementia, passed over to the spirit world.
So much loss.
The week was not improved by visiting politicians I strongly dislike and do not support. One had been poorly briefed about the new care home building project he was there to announce; he pointed out the “beautiful view” the residents will have of the lake (the current home is actually right beside the lake, with an even prettier view.) He seemed oddly focussed on looks: “We’re going to build the most beautiful long term care home this town has ever seen,” he said. Well . . . thanks. How about the staff? How about the funding? How about the level of care? How about all the promises made a year ago which have not yet been fulfilled? How about making that $3/ hour pay rise for PSWs permanent?
I know how hard working they are, the PSWs at my husband’s care home. I know what hours they put in, how often they work over time, how much they love the residents, the many, many things they do far above and beyond their job descriptions, how little support they receive from some quarters.
People are free to raise money however they choose, of course (so long as it’s not illegal). People are free to spend their money however they choose. I know this. Even so, my heart broke to read of people “spending” $1,000 for a burger and pop and the chance to hobnob with said politicians. I hope everyone who donated $1,000 to the re-election campaign also wrote a $1,000 cheque to our local food bank, or community kitchen. How many meals would $1,000 buy? How many people could be fed with $1,000 worth of groceries? (How little will $1,000 truly buy in terms of re-election TV or radio ads, glossy posters, team retreats, office supplies, whatever else the money is spent on?)
Jim was a friend I rang when I needed to rant. In turn, I was a friend he rang when he needed to cry. We also laughed a lot together, but, most of all, we were both good listeners.
“Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime, and falling in at night. I miss you like hell.” -Edna St. Vincent Millay
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