A Long, Lonely Journey: Loving a Spouse Who is Living with Dementia

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Tuesday, May 28, 2024

Flashbacks & Foreshadowing

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I am deeply grateful for the four years I spent immersed in Alice Munro’s Dear Life , and how much I learned about myself through a close re...
Friday, May 3, 2024

Trigger Warning: Butterflies

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Memory can be such a double-edged sword. I have been thinking about content warnings, about the power of words to harm at times, heal at oth...
Friday, April 5, 2024

“Till a' the seas gang dry . . .”

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Doug’s care home is located on a road we’d driven many times as it’s a short cut between our house and my childhood home, when Mum still liv...
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Thursday, December 14, 2023

Again, December

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  I am not a stamper, but I’ve used this stamp multiple times this year. It reads: sometimes this time of year is just hard. In amongst the ...
Friday, October 13, 2023

Bittersweet

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Why bittersweet, I wonder, not sweetbitter? How did this compound noun come to be created in this order, putting painful first and pleasurab...
Tuesday, October 10, 2023

Random Thoughts on Bravery

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Thankful Grateful Blessed I have discovered that I am marking the passage of years by the appearance of this sign in Doug’s care home. Tha...
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My husband and I recited our wedding vows in August 2012, agreeing to love and cherish each other in sickness and in health. We didn't know there was sickness already. We never imagined that early onset dementia would define our marriage. In May 2013 he was formally diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairment. “It's NOT mild!!” I wrote to my sister . . . ah, had I only known how mild it was. I could list all things my intelligent, hard-working, capable, adventurous husband can no longer do - but to what purpose? It would be easy to feel sorry for us - but that won't change what is. I am a witness to his life, I treasure his memories, and I love him. His is not my story to tell, and I can’t speak to the reality of living with dementia except in my role as wife and caregiver. I've made mistakes along the way - but we've had lots of good moments too.
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